Sunday, April 4, 2010

Friendship-----A beautiful relation god created.......

Last Sunday I met my friends and; we discussed some very interesting topics. Relations....all kinds of relations. Yes be it your family , your friends, your acquaintances. Friends play such an important role in your life. You need them at every phase, every moment. These are the relations which are made by you. I mean family relations are one that you are gifted with. When you choose friends it is completely your decision to make that person your friend. People say it is so damn important that your friend & your thoughts should match. But I don't believe in it. My best friend with whom I have spent 10 years of my life is so different from me. We are like chalk and cheese. If I have to say north pole, she will say south pole. That's the variation in our thoughts. During school days, we use to argue a lot. It use to debate between us for all the topics we discussed. But still I respect her thoughts and so does she. Why is it that we fail to understand that no two people can think same and create so many problems in such a beautiful relationship? We respect each others thinking and I think that is what has made our friendship survive. We always took effort to understand each other, rather than trying to impose our thoughts on each other. We are not in that much contact as we use to be before. But we do make it a point to meet once in a month. She is now busy with her life chores and so am I, but still we have kept the friendship alive in our hearts. Yes this was taught to me by my mother. My mother's best friend use to stay in different city. They never ever chatted on phone or even letters. When my mom got married they both were separated. But whenever I use to discuss my friends with my mom, she use to always mention her name. My mom's friendship was also similar to mine. My Mom and her best friend were poles apart. Still they are best friends. When my mom heard her voice on phone after 20 years, she had tears in her eyes. That is what true friendship is all about. There might be times when you may lose contact with your friends (of-course due to circumstances) but always keep their friendship intact in your heart. My mom's story is perfect example of true friendship. They never had ego problem, they never had fights, they were always their for each other when they needed the support and the most important thing the care, affection and love they had for each other was so wonderful. I am still trying to maintain those kind of friendships with all my close friends. I still wonder why is it that people fail to understand, that its not that difficult to put aside your egos and become selfless. Why they fail to understand that when a friend is there for you...it's not any kind of politics or its not for their selfishness. I know some people do come with that intentions and you need to be careful. But one should definitely learn to understand who cares for you and who is your true friend. Hope that one day I will be like my mother.... be a perfect friend.....for all my close friends in life, whom I have chosen to be close to me. But as it is said to make that friendship work both the friends have to put effort. But I think if your affection for your friend is true.....one day your friend will realize it. Till that just wait patiently and believe in yourself and yes always keep in touch with your friends......

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