Change- The necessity of life

Change....the word itself says all. We keep on changing according to circumstances. It is said that "Change is necessity of life". One needs to change during those critical phases of life to move ahead. Sometimes the change which happens is for good and sometimes vice-versa. So how do one change oneself for good things? Change also means flexibility in certain environments. It is said that one needs to be flexible enough to adjust in any environment. I always use to wonder, is it possible to be so much flexible? until I discovered I am myself so much flexible to adjust. Yes, I am. I always thought myself to be rigid, until I joined college. I was their in an environment which was completely new for me, my friends were completely different from what I was. But I never felt I was a misfit their. I moulded myself in such a way that for me it was learning experience. I started observing people around me. For me it was like test or chapter to learn for. I studied all the various types of characters around me and it made me understand the different types of people coming from different stratas of society. Eventually it became my hobby to observe people, to understand their nature. I know it sounds bit weird, but its the most fascinating hobby. You get to explore the variety in human brains and emotions. The main role in developing their personality is their surroundings. Its very simple, we adopt the surrounding in which we grow. It plays a very important role in building one's individual personality. But many people fail to understand this simple concept  thus developing misunderstandings and hatred among each other. One needs to understand the environments in which the person as a child has grown up. It helps a lot to understand their way of behavior after that. It not only helps us understand the behavior, but also the way they think. For me, this understanding plays very important role in decoding the nature of the person better. One can analyse the reason behind person always being diplomatic in his/her approach, or person being straight-forward or brutally honest. Many of my friends come from different surroundings and so they think in completely different way. While some of my friends share the same atmosphere as I shared during my childhood days. They were once very confused with certain behavior of my other friends. I was wondering how do i explain to them, that its not that they behave in such a way purposely, its the way they are behaving since childhood. One cannot change it but accept it. Finally I was able to convince them. It is not that difficult to understand the persons behavior. Just have a talk about their childhood surroundings along with their upbringing and you will surely get all the answers to your doubtful questions. This will put you in a better position to understand the world around you and so will be the world to understand you also in a better way.